Hi Melissa3 . This Mother's Day was my 2nd without my mom. Sorry about your mom. From my situation I found the loss of mom brought a sort of 'awakening'. Mom's gone. No more phone calls or visits or whatever. The loss of 'Mom' is different than any other loss. So, that literally needs to be unpacked. Either start a specific journal where you can unpack this chapter while beginning a new chapter. Also, learning to love yourself and unpack why you sabotage yourself. From my situation with that, I too am great at helping others and a 'fixer' for others. I had to learn to do that for myself. I had to learn NOT to do or say things to myself that I would not do to others. That is not easy because I had to learn to catch it. My problem was not recognizing it until afterward. I had to learn to become my own best friend. Speak to and about myself as I would my actual best friend. I learned sabotage was punishment. What was I punishing myself for? Do we punish our best friends? of course not ... but here I was sabotaging myself. But I can say... once you find out the answer to these questions and unpack them, you'll find everything else fall into place. I wish you well.

I am 5feet2 inches tall and weigh around 250 lbs .Lost my father at 96 last year and my mother 8 years ago she was in a nursing home.I am also greasing for my son that passed 12 years ago.He was 32 years old.So I would like to lose weight and weigh 135 lbs like I was for 30 years.They say you gain weight in your middle age but I gained a lot because I went to works so I gain weight because of stress.I entered in Overeaters Anonymous
You get what you put in it. So hope we can pray to acquire more patience. God bless.

Thank you @A MyObesityTeam Member for your very insightful message. I love the idea of unpacking things, and starting a journal. I am sorry to hear about your mom, as well. You’re absolutely right when you say, “the loss of mom is different than any other loss”. I remember my mom always said, “No one can lose the weight for you, but you”. She always had the right thing to say. I’m taking it day by day, and trying to think positively. I really appreciate your message. I hope you have a beautiful night.💕🌸

Thank you, so much, @A MyObesityTeam Member for your kindness, and concern. I hope you’re night is a beautiful one!💕😘

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Thank you so much, I miss her more than ever. 🌸 I am a Christian and I just know that there is a light. I’m just struggling to find it.💕🌸 I love your suggestion, and it means so much to me. I will do that! Have a beautiful day and thank you for your message.💕🌸

Melissa3
Welcome back
Sorry for your loss